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Rebecca's avatar

Yes! To all of this ❤️

Thank you for sharing so openly and honestly.

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Tarzan Kay's avatar

Thanks for being a reader.

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SandraB's avatar

Love this! Yes to being open to all avenues of help and healing. If you haven’t yet specifically tried grief counseling you might consider it too. Sending lots of love healing vibes and encouragement. Xoxo

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Tarzan Kay's avatar

Thank you, Sandra. And no, I hadn't considered that but I think it's a really good idea.

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Carrie Montgomery's avatar

LOVE YOU! Yes, waking up is like standing under a waterfall looking up with your eyes open. Not the most comfortable but also so refreshing. Please keep sharing your journey. I'm joining you!

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Tarzan Kay's avatar

I sometimes just want to shut them. That waterfall is powerful. I'm glad you're sharing your stories too. I really like reading them.

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Janel's avatar

OMG. Yes. Yes to all of this. Oooooh I felt the toothpaste comment so deeply.

My background is naturopathic medicine. I've seen miracles, but I also know that I have walked around unwell for almost 50 years. I watched clients who came to me get better after medical doctors said they had no hope, but I closed up shop because I felt like a fraud. If I couldn't help myself, was I really a good example? It didn't help that I was struggling with undiagnosed neurodivergence and experiencing six kinds of abuse. Shhhh minor details because women are supposed to suffer silently.

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Tarzan Kay's avatar

I was wondering if anyone would get the toothpaste comment! I'm glad you caught that. A fellow fluoride sympathizer, maybe? I also struggle with the industry that I'm in professionally and sometimes want to quit because the problems are so complex. But I believe there can be a middle - especially when it comes to medicine.

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Amber's avatar

This piece of writing is beautiful. I was a Christian Scientist for 30 years, and medication is not actually forbidden. But spiritual healing is definitely the foundation of its teachings and chosen over medication the overwhelming vast majority of times. I have found a stronger connection to myself, my spirituality and healing outside of the church (because church is run by humans 🙃 and I also don’t need “spiritual rules”) but it still felt right to make that little correction to the info on CS. On a separate note: YES to medication or whatever feels right to you. Much love ~Amber

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Tarzan Kay's avatar

Thanks for correcting me! I only know what I've seen on TV about Christian Science. I probably saw it on Grey's Anatomy or something. I'll do more research next time. 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Amber's avatar

No worries…it’s a VERY common misconception. Glad I could contribute.

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Savannah Gilbo's avatar

I felt the same way about medication for a long time. I lived with crippling anxiety for years before finally accepting that I needed help. I’ve been taking Zoloft for a few years now and it’s made a HUGE difference! Hugs to you, and thanks for sharing your story so bravely and honestly!

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Tarzan Kay's avatar

I love hearing stories like that. Thanks for sharing. I get that for some people it's not revolutionary or even all that interesting, but I also see that it can be an act of courage.

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Danielle T's avatar

You definitely are not alone. I can relate to so much of this, especially the part about craving the comfort of the world you once knew. Thank you for sharing and making others not feel alone 💛

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Tarzan Kay's avatar

I think about that every day. Thanks for sitting in this messy discomfort with me.

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Dalea Faulkner's avatar

I started Zoloft in 2021 and it has made a huge shift for me, dare I say a Spiritual shift! 💕 Whatever works for you is what is most important.

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Tarzan Kay's avatar

Zoloft: for the spiritual shifts you didn’t get at church . I hope they make that their new tagline.

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